Why do I get stuck on loading screen for so long on some servers?

[TopLeaf 18]

So basically I can join some servers but not others, I'm Australian and can join American servers but not ANz or NZ ones, this is fucked!

on DayZ commander it comes up as some servers are light grey and some are white, most are grey, does this mean anything? is my game not updating? my friend doesn't have a problem connecting to Aus ones but has trouble connecting to American ones that I can, will beans everyone who gives good answers

[resin_ 97]

Assuming you're running 1.7.2.5, you're probably joining servers running older versions. This will cause long load times and the possibility of respawning on the coast.

[Mastiff (DayZ) 42]

I find on heavily populated servers I can be waiting 5 minutes for my character to appear in game on 2.5, it seems to have got worse than 2.4, each time I log in my Humanity is completely forgotten and it sits at 0 (with bandit skin) and after 5 minutes it changes to a normal dude. Then when I log out and back in I'm a bandit again...

[TopLeaf 18]

both of you were completely right! good work take my beans!!!! also my friend just died RIP