OP, if you want a friendly server... host one. Email the staff saying you want to donate a server, and do whatever needs to be done to disable PVP. I do not agree with it, and think you're playing the wrong mod, but Rocket himself has said he wants the game to be what people make it to be. You and your idea may be unpopular (your offensive name and wanting to change a beloved mod's style form the norm), but you want something from it that others do not. So in that case, if no one here wants to take the effort to host a non PVP server, then you do it. If you can't, then research other zombie based missions for ARMA II CO that are non PVP. I do not know any myself. Or, play L4D/L4D2 or Dead Island.