First of all asking the question "should they be ashamed of themselves?" is by far the best way to make yourself look like a whiney 4 year old. Secondly, there is NO proper way to play the game. Im sorry someone shot you and your buttsore that you lost your pretty can opener but seriously? Its a SURVIVAL game. Guess what? You are probably gonna get shot and killed at some point. Otherwise there is very little point in the game. If you can't handle that fact then either stop playing or stop whining and enjoy yourself. You're like the guys on COD who bitch about getting shot.