Nooblygoobly

I am toying with the idea of buying it, and like everything else I have heard good and bad points, but it looks like so much fun :D I had to make a choice earlier between Rust of DayZ, I went down the Rust route and honestly regret it for the most part, so now I am looking at DayZ. All I have to do it work out how to buy it without the wife noticing :/ its almost my birthday and I have been dropping hints, but you never know :D But the real question is.... is it really any different than Rust at the end of the day? The players in Rust are driving me away, not the game, so what is the DayZ community like?