the best was to avoid items vanishing is dropping them in allready existing loot. just go loot at some empty cans or whatever is nearest and add what you want to trade to the pile. even if the item should not be visibile it will still be possibile to pick it up by looting the pile its in. also you can open the backpack on other players so if you have some free slots in there thats also a way your mate can give you stuff even if there is no loot near you.