The LA Baker

I have wanted to play DayZ since I got Arma2 for christmas. My friends and I all want to play, but its almost impossible to find the same server without a 3rd party program. Why not just incorporate the "join game" button on steam. Since it is on steam now. Commander manages to do what no other program has ever done, crash my internet 100% of the time. It is not my router(not connected), it is my modem, which is brand new and top of the line, because I complained about the old one(due to Commander crashing it). Now I understand there is a setting to fix this, but why isn't this built into the program? This is very basic. Connectivity on an online game is kinda the most basic step. No other program(I know of) has this issue. I find it to be a cheap cop-out to say "its your hardware and besides we provided a tool", instead of just making the program work properly, like every other one in existance. That is all.