We are also not white listed currently, but hoping to head in that direction in the very near future, Our max ping is set to 350. Check out our Youtube videos and Facebook page; Search Trauma Server. Thanks and Enjoy.
Why not Private hive ? Granted there are some Admins out there who abuse the you know what out of there powers but you won't find that on our server, youtube or facebook search: Trauma Server, I think you'll find exactly what you are looking for.