KombatWombat (DayZ)

Hey guys, first time on the DayZ forums and Im a bit stuck... I've been trying to join my friends server (not connected to the hive) but whenever I launch DayZ commander and filter to find his server, the ping is 10000. I tried solving this by changing the beta version to the servers beta version via my steamapps folder but it hasn't worked. Also when I join the server, it stays on the "Wait for host" screen. :unsure: I am not sure why this is happening because my other friend is enabled to join the server with ease and I have been on the server before with no troubles. If anybody can come up with a solution could you please tell me? Thanks. B)